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Facebook froze my life two months ago. Holding all my pictures, friends, comments, posts, notes. Now I am back, they gave me my life back, as I left it.

I wonder where in the web is my past love gone. Where have my moments of virtual love with him gone?
Deleted them a long time ago, and now lost in the virtual space that does not forget anything.

The virtual space cannot delete anything. Traces of love affairs will never really disappear, neither will do our pictures and our videos and all the words we wasted online.

I am bound to forget, facebook holds the right to delete all in surface but without truly deleting anything, we all know that we hand over to facebook basically the right to preserve whatever we give them, even the things we want to forget.

Do I really think I am free just because I can block him on Facebook? Do I really think that by doing so and not to be able to see his profile picture any longer, I will be farther away from him and whatever is left of him?
Things in surface are surely changed, but deep inside, both I and Facebook will always keep traces of that love affair. And I will keep, as well as Facebook, the memory of pictures, videos, words, beneath my visible skin. What about him I should wonder. And I am afraid to wonder.

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Noodles Homewood said…
Facebook is a dangerous and cool tool. You put there your toughts and you let your small world to know them.

Both you and Facebook will keep signs of this affair. And you have to keep it - not forget - as this is part of your experience and who you are now.

Despite this, even if I use it, I find Facebook a dangerous tool. I discovered there things I did not want to discover about her.
But Facebook is just a mirror. Real life is outside there. And real life lives in your heart. Don't forget that.

With regard to the fact that you do not want to meet a real love for a while (as per your comment yesterday), I agree. Being single has lots of goodies. Being able to leave on Friday evening if you simply are in the mood for it, nobody to report what you do and what you feel, the ability to go out with who you want and when you want.
But sometimes I feel the desire of being "totally vulnerable". And it is something it is easy to get addicted to.

Cheers,
Noodles Homewood
29 August 2010 at 13:16
AnnaFullStop said…
Facebook is just a mirror. A mirror that we paint, a mirror that we decide how should it look like, that is the most dangerous part.
Being single again, I don't like it, but then again, one cannot meet true love everywhere...when you meet too many true loves chances are one or all of them are not true loves at all...and I am not like that.
Totally vulnerable. I am totally vulnerable whether single or not.
29 August 2010 at 13:32
Noodles Homewood said…
If you are totally vulnerable, being single or not, you are my hero and I envy you. You are not afraid of suffering and this is a big plus.

Discussing with an old sir while watching F1. Inspiring. :-)
29 August 2010 at 13:44
AnnaFullStop said…
Yes indeed you pictured me. I can suffer for the most trivial things and in the most complete way always. Only when I suffered utterly and completely till the end, I rise my head above. I gues it's a fabrication vice! :)
Enjoy F1!
29 August 2010 at 14:01
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